It is natural to feel nervous about counselling initially. Here I try to answer some of the things you may be wondering about.
It is natural to feel nervous or unsure about counselling initially.
Sometimes people tell me they are worried their issue is ‘too small’ but if it is concerning you then it is worthy of our attention, and important to look at it to improve your well-being. You may feel that you have reached the point that you have no choice but to try to make some changes in your life.
You may be thinking ‘but where would I begin?’ I am used to helping people when they just don’t know how to start. It may take you a little time to settle in but people are often surprised at how quickly they begin to feel comfortable and free to talk about anything they like.
Focusing on some areas of your life can be painful, and you may find it difficult at times, but trying to avoid them can often make things worse. Often people come to counselling when have got to the point when they feel they really need to look at things, and find that really being listened to can make things easier to manage.
We will be working at your own pace on whatever you decide to talk about. I will be eager to support you. Patience and a sense of humour can be very helpful in the serious business of looking at our lives!
This is a difficult question to answer. I see each person as individual and as having individual needs. We may agree to meet for a few sessions or we may take it as it comes and work together longer-term. I’m flexible and I welcome returning clients. It will depend on how our work unfolds and what you see as your needs.
You are not committed to a set number of sessions. As we work together with mutual respect I ask that you give me as much notice as possible if you can’t make a session and I will do the same. I do ask for a minimum of 24 hours’ notice of cancellation or my full fee may be payable.
The first step is to contact me to make a free 15 minute appointment so that we can talk about what you are looking for and see if I might be the right person to help you at this time. We can then go ahead to book a full appointment if you wish.
Usually we make the next appointment at the end of each session at a mutually-convenient time, if you want to.
I offer mainly daytime appointments, and have some early evening appointments.
I currently work on Zoom and people tell me that they appreciate the convenience of this. There’s no travel time and you can have counselling from the comfort and safety of your own home and you can drink from your own mug!
Appointments are up to an hour. I ask for payment at the end of each appointment and my fee is £70. I may be able offer concessions if this fee is not manageable for you - please ask.
‘I don’t take your words
Merely as words.
Far from it.
I listen
To whatever makes you talk –
Whatever that is –
And me listen.’
Shinkichi Takahashi (translation by Lucien Stryk and Takahashi Ikemoto)