It is natural to feel nervous about counselling initially. Here I try to answer some of the things you may be wondering about.
It is natural to feel nervous or unsure about counselling initially.
Sometimes people tell me they are worried their issue is ‘too small’ but if it is concerning you then it is worthy of our attention, and important to look at it to improve your well-being.
You may be thinking ‘but where would I begin?’ I am used to helping people when they just don’t know how to start. It may take you a little time to settle in but people are often surprised at how quickly they begin to feel comfortable and free to talk about anything they like.
Focusing on some areas of your life can be painful, and you may find it difficult at times, but trying to avoid them can often make things worse. Often people come to counselling when have got to the point when they feel they really need to look at things, and find that really being listened to can make things easier to manage.
You will be working at your own pace on whatever you decide to talk about. I will be eager to support you.
This is a difficult question to answer. Although there may be some similarities in what people want to talk about, I see each person as individual and as having individual needs. We may agree to meet for a few sessions or we may take it as it comes and work together longer-term. This will depend on how our work unfolds and what you see as your needs.
You are not committed to a set number of sessions. As we work together with mutual respect I ask that you give me as much notice as possible if you can’t make a session and I will do the same. I do ask for a minimum of 24 hours’ notice of cancellation or my full fee may be payable.
Usually we make the next appointment at the end of each session at a mutually-convenient time. I offer both daytime and evening appointments. I also offer online counselling.
Appointments are up to an hour. I ask for payment at the end of each appointment and my fee is £50.
‘I don’t take your words
Merely as words.
Far from it.
To whatever makes you talk –
Whatever that is –
And me listen.’
Shinkichi Takahashi (translation by Lucien Stryk and Takahashi Ikemoto)